Saturday, September 20, 2008 @ 1:30 PM
bismillah-ir rahman-ir rahim.
i hung out with an old friend few days ago, we had a chat. and i think, she put across a good point into my head.
first, being in a relationship. you will ALWAYS get sad, you cry and weep like a fuck. but if that phase isn't properly healed, yeah it will turn to angst and finally. well, i dunno what's final in anger. cause my own anger is like, TNT. haha, dynamite know?
kay, what we blogging about today.
well, i guess.
i'm about confused, what about being totally devoted to someone.
we're not saints right, yet talk about devotion.
this aint the movies, let me get this straight.
JEALOUSY : Parrott makes use of the cause of jealousy to define it: “jealousy is an emotion experienced when a person is threatened by the loss of an important relation with another person” . He further defines it also as “a type of anxious insecurity following from the perception of threat to a relation” which sustains the jealous’ self . Prinz says that jealousy is a “non basic emotion”, meaning that “it is combination of basic emotions with other mental states that are not emotions”. His statement has a foundation on the concept of basic and non basic emotions, which he takes from Plutchik. Prinz suggests that jealousy “contains anger, sadness, disgust” , “all brought together by the belief that one’s lover has been unfaithful” . Further, Goldie says jealousy is a passion, focusing his definition on the effects of jealousy, which “frequently get out of control” . It is a common observation that the experience of jealousy can last much longer than the one of a basic emotion like anger, without losing its original intensity, and, in a paradox captured in Rochefoucauld's maxim, it may outlast the attachment which it fears losing: "jealousy is always born with love; it does not always die with it."
The word "jealousy" is frequently used to describe what is more properly envy, fixation on what someone else has. Envy and jealousy are distinct in their object . Jealousy concerns something one has and is afraid of losing, while envy concerns something one does not have and either he wants to acquire nonmalicious envy or he wants the other(s) not to have malicious envy.
ANGER : Anger is an emotional state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage. The physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as part of the fight or flight brain response to the perceived threat of pain. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behavior of another outside force.
The external expression of anger can be found in facial expressions, body language, physiological responses, and at times in public acts of aggression. Animals and humans for example make loud sounds, attempt to look physically larger, bare their teeth, and stare. Anger is a behavioral pattern designed to warn aggressors to stop their threatening behavior. Rarely does a physical altercation occur without the prior expression of anger by at least one of the participants. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them," psychologists point out that an angry person can be very well mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability.
In the world of humans, the unique use of codified symbols and sounds -written and spoken language, pain or the threat of pain can be perceived from written and verbal sources. Humans may not perceive an immediate physical threat, but pain can be felt psychologically. Due to humans' capacity to imagine the distant future, the threat of pain can also arise purely from the imagination, and not be based on anything happening in the immediate present. In humans, anger often arises when another human being is perceived to violate expected behavioral norms related to social survival. These violations break social or interpersonal boundaries, or may be ethical or legal violations.
Modern psychologists view anger as a primary, natural, and mature emotion experienced by all humans at times, and as something that has functional value for survival. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action. Uncontrolled anger can however negatively affect personal or social well-being.
While many philosophers and writers have warned against the spontaneous and uncontrolled fits of anger, there has been disagreement over the intrinsic value of anger. Dealing with anger has been addressed in the writings of earliest philosophers up to modern times. Modern psychologists, in contrast to the earlier writers, have also pointed out the possible harmful effects of suppression of anger.
It has been also shown that the displays of anger can be used as an effective manipulation strategy for social influence.
LOYALTY : Loyalty evolved as devotion for one's family, gene-group and friends. Loyalty comes most naturally amongst small groups or tribes where the prospect of the whole casting out the individual seems like the ultimate, unthinkable rejection. Loyalty to tribes evolved from the evolutionary tactic that there is a greater chance of survival and procreation if animals form packs/tribes.
In a feudal society, centered on personal bonds of mutual obligation, accounting for precise degrees of protection and fellowship can prove difficult. Loyalty in these circumstances can become a matter of extremes: alternative groups may exist, but lack of mobility will enter a personal sense of loyalty.
The rise of states meant the harnessing of the "loyalty" concept to foster allegiance to the sovereign or established government of one’s country, also personal devotion and reverence to the sovereign and royal family.
Wars of religion and their interminglings with wars of states have seen loyalty used in religious senses too, involving faithful support of a chosen or traditional set of beliefs or of sports representatives. And in modern times marketing has postulated loyalties to abstract concepts such as the brand. Customer churn has become the opposite of loyalty, just as high treason once stood as the opposite of the same idea.
Loyalty is also seen in business in a variety of ways. As governments have grown in size and scope, some people are more loyal to a company rather than to a country. As corporation complexity has grown, people have shifted their loyalties to individuals rather than companies. As those individuals move between companies, they often take other people with them. Stock options are one method devised to keep people loyal to a company.
LOVE : The English word love can have a variety of related but distinct meanings in different contexts. Often, other languages use multiple words to express some of the different concepts which English relies mainly on love to encapsulate; one example is the plurality of Greek words for "love". Cultural differences in conceptualizing love thus make it doubly difficult to establish any universal definition. American psychologist Zick Rubin try to define love by the psychometrics. His work states that three factors constitute love: attachment, caring and intimacy.
Although the nature or essence of love is a subject of frequent debate, different aspects of the word can be clarified by determining what isn't "love". As a general expression of positive sentiment, love is commonly contrasted with hate; as a less sexual and more emotionally intimate form of romantic attachment, love is commonly contrasted with lust; and as an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, love is commonly contrasted with friendship, though other definitions of the word love may be applied to close friendships in certain contexts. When discussed in the abstract, love usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience felt by a person for another person. Love often involves caring for or identifying with a person or thing, including oneself.
In addition to cross-cultural differences in understanding love, ideas about love have also changed greatly over time. Some historians date modern conceptions of romantic love to courtly Europe during or after the Middle Ages, though the prior existence of romantic attachments is attested by ancient love poetry. Because of the complex and abstract nature of love, discourse on love is commonly reduced to a thought-terminating cliché, and there are a number of common proverbs regarding love, from Virgil's "Love conquers all" to The Beatles' "All you need is love". Bertrand Russell describes love as a condition of "absolute value", as opposed to relative value. Theologian Thomas Jay Oord said that to love is to "act intentionally, in sympathetic response to others, to promote overall well-being".
A person can be said to love a country, principle, or goal if they value it greatly and are deeply committed to it. Similarly, compassionate outreach and volunteer workers' "love" of their cause may sometimes be borne not of interpersonal love, but impersonal love coupled with altruism and strong political convictions. People can also "love" material objects, animals, or activities if they invest themselves in bonding or otherwise identifying with that item. If sexual passion is also involved, this condition is called paraphilia.
the person i am putting this for, may or may not realise it. but yeah, it is for you. like i said, i can be your sweetest drug, or i can be your worst nightmare. don't keep me waiting, till this world of mine. gets sick of you, i am NOT of before. evolution has taken place, got me?
oh ya, i want to blog this. 1st love, aww shucks. sweet eyy? haha, sweet only when both are in love with each other. what if it has been one-sided for years, and you suffer in silence. all because of your anger, all because of your ego. i could say i've been to hell, and now i'm back. the kind of hell, only i know.
"take a look at the world, take a bow to your rights.
know what has been given to you, know what your rights are.
love, hate, anger.
all the emotions have been given to you, put them to good use.
what use do they have, when all you do.
makes the world a worse place, for generations to come.
i have loved, and has had been loved.
what do you have?"
amin.
oh ya, i want to blog this. 1st love, aww shucks. sweet eyy? haha, sweet only when both are in love with each other. what if it has been one-sided for years, and you suffer in silence. all because of your anger, all because of your ego. i could say i've been to hell, and now i'm back. the kind of hell, only i know.
"take a look at the world, take a bow to your rights.
know what has been given to you, know what your rights are.
love, hate, anger.
all the emotions have been given to you, put them to good use.
what use do they have, when all you do.
makes the world a worse place, for generations to come.
i have loved, and has had been loved.
what do you have?"
amin.
